Children’s emotions are like a roller coaster ride! Constantly changing from one situation to the next.
With children being so new to this world, they are often overwhelmed by their feelings.
As parents, we need to teach children that emotions are part of us, the good, the bad, & the ugly ones too. Encouraging our little ones to be aware of their emotions and be able to communicate with others about what they are feeling is a skill they will forever use.
Emotional intelligence is a very important skill that sets children up to be emotionally healthy individuals. I believe this to be one of the most crucial jobs that we have as parents to set them up for life long success.
Emotional intelligence allows children to have the ability to vocalize their own feelings and bring an awareness to how others might be feeling around them as well.
I am going to be honest, this has been a lot harder for me than I ever thought it would. I have learned I too need to validate my emotions and work on self regulation.
We are humans and have A LOT of emotions, it is okay if you are still learning to regulate yours too.
Helping children gain control of their feelings is a two step process. First we must teach them how to identify their emotions. Then we must teach them to self-regulate.
The best ways I have found to teach big emotions to my children is:
- By example (& like is said I am a work & progress)
Books are an incredible resource when teaching children all about emotions. This opens up communication between you and your child about how to handle different emotions.
It can be very hard to teach children how to handle their emotions while they are in the middle of experiencing them. Reading books that focus on this allows us to prepare our children for those moments when their emotions start to take over.
I am always on the hunt for new books that help open up the dialogue of emotions in common situations that children experience. You can find books at your local library, which is what I so at least once a month or order them from amazon and create a home library!
COVID-19 Library update: Our library is offering curb side pick up for items placed on hold. We have been loving this option for retrieving our new books! Check your local library to see what they offer!
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TOP BOOKS FOR BIG EMOTIONS & FEELINGS
The Color Monster
In My Heart: A Book of Feelings
The Way I Feel
All About Feelings
All About Feelings: Lift The Flap Book Questions & Answers
The Pigeon Has Feelings Too
Glad Monster, Sad Monster
Today I Feel Silly, And Other Moods That Make My Day
Find Your Calm
What Color Is Your Day?
Little Monkey Calms Down
I’m Feeling Happy Daniel Tiger
I’m Feeling Sad Daniel Tiger
Daniel’s Little Songs For Big Feelings
The Boy With Big, Big Feelings
There are so many wonderful books to help teach children how to identify their emotions and realize that everyone has them. It can be very difficult for little ones to experience emotions at first. Using these books to open up conversation will help guide your children to learn what to do with their emotions.
Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood is by far my favorite child’s show. They do a great job explaining to children situations that cause big emotions in children. They cover anxiety about school, issues with friends, introducing a new sibling, and other common stressors in a child’s life.
Plus the characters parents respond in such a respectful way. I know I have caught myself thinking “wow that was a good way to handle that situation, I;m going to try it.”
Remember, we must be their safe haven and accept them with their good and bad emotions, without shaming.
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What is your favorite book to help children learn emotional intelligence?